Things are better
Today was a good day. DH and I hashed out his issue and of course it was a (to me) small thing, not far from a misunderstanding that a simple question or two from him could have cleared right up. But, as I often remind myself, he is depressed and not in his right mind: he's paranoid, uncomfortable around people, immerses himself in TV on his computer where he can get all the channels, sometimes grumpy, and worst of all, jealous of imaginary people/events. He is STUCK and I can't pull him out alone. We are starting to talk about that, which is a good thing, because you can't change what you don't acknowledge (thank you Dr. Phil). I also have convinced him to start taking my Zoloft, and he is. Already, after a month, I notice a difference. Besides, my neuro prescribes 150 mg. daily for me and I can get by with 50 - especially if things are better with DH.
So, what made today a good day you might ask? I got him to go out front and cut back the rhododendron that has been blocking the front window for two years. I told him today would be a good day because it wasn't going to rain, and I would go out and help as I could. So we did, and while we were out there Lynn dropped by and helped a little and it was fun. Now I can see out the front window to enjoy the last remaining days of the burning bush which is verily glowing. I love that shrub. So - more light for me in the house this Winter - Yay!!
I'm going to get the regular flu shot tomorrow, and then get my blood drawn to check on my Vit D. level. Hopefully it has come up some. Normal is supposed to be 30, but my Gyno. recommends her patients try to maintain a level of 50. I'll mention that to the nurse when I get the shot, and ask about the Shingles shot as well because I had a bad case of the chicken pox as a young'un.
I want to do steroids, but not when I'm getting a flu shot. And yes, I'll take an ibuprofen before I leave the house. I'm also waiting to hear from the urologist's office to see if I have a bladder infection for the same reason - infections don't play well with steroids, so it's best to know what's going on. Boringly, I am taking care of my medical business. Good for me.
Now I'm off to start a new book that sounds interesting, The Case of the Missing Servant by Tarquin Hall; it's about Delhi's most trusted PI, Vish Puri, who apparently is no Sherlock Holmes. Sounds like fun.
Good Night, TTYL and
Be Well
P.S. Tomorrow I'm making Apple Crisp. I'm ready for it, and tired of waiting to be waited on.
So, what made today a good day you might ask? I got him to go out front and cut back the rhododendron that has been blocking the front window for two years. I told him today would be a good day because it wasn't going to rain, and I would go out and help as I could. So we did, and while we were out there Lynn dropped by and helped a little and it was fun. Now I can see out the front window to enjoy the last remaining days of the burning bush which is verily glowing. I love that shrub. So - more light for me in the house this Winter - Yay!!
I'm going to get the regular flu shot tomorrow, and then get my blood drawn to check on my Vit D. level. Hopefully it has come up some. Normal is supposed to be 30, but my Gyno. recommends her patients try to maintain a level of 50. I'll mention that to the nurse when I get the shot, and ask about the Shingles shot as well because I had a bad case of the chicken pox as a young'un.
I want to do steroids, but not when I'm getting a flu shot. And yes, I'll take an ibuprofen before I leave the house. I'm also waiting to hear from the urologist's office to see if I have a bladder infection for the same reason - infections don't play well with steroids, so it's best to know what's going on. Boringly, I am taking care of my medical business. Good for me.
Now I'm off to start a new book that sounds interesting, The Case of the Missing Servant by Tarquin Hall; it's about Delhi's most trusted PI, Vish Puri, who apparently is no Sherlock Holmes. Sounds like fun.
Good Night, TTYL and
Be WellP.S. Tomorrow I'm making Apple Crisp. I'm ready for it, and tired of waiting to be waited on.
I know the feeling of talking to hubby and not wanting to, that is me, we get bored and sometimes I think he is depressed also. Was very surprised that he bought me flowers, but I am not sure if I am always on his mind????
ReplyDeleteThanks for stopping by, I need to get my flu shot also
kim
Can you get him to go see someone ? It's nice of you to share but ...
ReplyDeleteI hope you have a better day today.
OK< I'll overlook that you broke a law or two there (sharing meds), not that my partner and I haven't considered it, LOL, but if he is clinically depressed....maybe a doctor? Or is he one of those macho I don't need no doctor men? He may be low on testostrone or some other simple fix too, and that would make him feel great! (I'm thinking) It has to be hard to have a spouse with MS and imaginary friends. Tell him I am REAL! H double hockey sticks, even live in Seattle. Glad you'll have some sun this winter. 50?? Geez.
ReplyDeleteKim, Still, the flowers are beautiful and he knew you would appreciate them.
ReplyDeleteJC - He has no health insurance and I know of no free counseling - Do you?
Diane, I know. I am a bad person. Shame on me. But my neuro often over-prescribes (he really likes his little Rx pad), and having no insurance how else to get them?
Also they aren't imaginary hallucinatory friends he imagines, rather, they are the I'm no good and she must be off canoodling with someone else friends (thus, the jealousy).
I think I am getting through to him, bit by bit. He has been acting more loving to me, and actually suggested that I call my neuro re SoluMedrol - which he hates because it's not "natural." But I think he hates that I'm not doing very well this week even more.
Flu shot and blood draw today went well - no problems. He even took me!