A little controversy

I made a comment on a forum a few days ago in response to this:

"I endured 90 mins of torture (well 30 mins was heat and rest, just 60 mins of pain) and I was let out. I wheel to the front door and there is 10cm of fresh heavy snow.

I am in my manual wheelchair. My muscles are weak. My muscles are weaker and sorer from physio. My truck looks like it is 1km away. I had heavy snow gloves on and trudged my way to the truck. I had to stop every third push to clear the snow from my grip bar and wheels so I could grab something. I eventually resorted to sticking a finger in between the spokes to help with the grip (major no-no for chairs and fingers).

My frustration level with MS, using a chair, being weak and in pain, and the fucking snow are just peaking!!! I know people can see me and I am embarrassed yet I want someone to come push me at the same time. When I finally got to my truck an elderly lady asked me if I needed help getting my chair in the truck. I smile "no thank you". It was nice of her. At this point I wouldn't have accepted help from anyone. I was so fired up. Daily life can just be so hard!"

I said this:
I'm sorry, but this post just pissed me off.

Why blame the MS when it was your own stupid pride and stubbornness that made the wheelchair trek to your car hell. Who wheels in 10 cm. of snow? Dummies, that's who. How dare you then complain, when by your own admission you wouldn't even let someone help you put your 'chair in the car because you were determined to finish what you'd started.

At least if you're going to do something like that, I think you should feel proud of yourself - and revel in the accomplishment, not bitch and complain about the toil of it all.
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I was redressed by a forum manager, and I have apologized for my rudeness, and we will move on. But now that I have been branded rude, I know I can't really post there again. Not that it matters much. I have noticed that most of my posts aren't responded to anyway. Yes, my questions are answered, but comments usually just lie (lay?) there.

I think I may give forums a break for awhile. I feel safer that way. At least in my own blog I can say what I want. I wanted to make two points - that being too proud or embarrassed to ask for help is STUPID, and when you do accomplish something very difficult, in spite of your limitations, you should be proud of it, not angry that it was so hard.

I believe that people don't mind helping a person who needs it. Any time I have asked for help I have gotten it. When people can help, they feel good about it. It's a win-win. Endorphins flowing all around. And giving yourself a virtual pat on the back isn't a bad thing.
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Oh, Tuesday I managed to drag my fat ass out of the house for the first time since the big freeze. On the way, I went to the new Thai Hut 2 and picked up some phad thai for dinner, then to the store for, you guessed it, MILK, and a few other things (doughnuts). When I left the store the rains had arrived; it was coming down in sheets, which made up my mind - I was not making my third stop at the library. So my book remains on the front seat of the car, waiting for me to drop it off, now $2 overdue and still unfinished.

Also, no flooding concerns where I live, though many on River Road are still flooded.